Barbie's Got Nothing On Me
Plastic Fantasies, Raw Realities
“… for genital response to spanking fetishes, our sexual physiology, psychology, and desires are all made of the same parts, just organised in different ways.
If we embrace this simple, profound idea - all the same parts, organised in different ways - it answers that ever - population question: Are men’s and women’s sexualities the same, or are they different?
Answer: Yes
They’re made of the same parts, organised differently.”
Page 35 - Come As You Are: Emily Nagasaki
If, as humans we can accept that we find different styles, food, textures, colours, tastes, scents pleasing, then why do so many of us struggle with accepting ourselves or parts of ourselves? As women; Nose, hair, skin, fingers, breasts, bum and as Emily writes, our vulvas. Most of us women comparing to the standard Barbie style white woman. Numbing out the various parts of ourselves, the parts that make us who we are. The version of us that we have grown to learn, how to make which make-up style work for us, what which side our fringe goes and yet, behind the scenes, we fight the comparability shadows within us, the dark shadows that feed on fear, guilt & shame. Fear of not feeling, shameful of who we are, could be, how we feel, our desires and the choices we make for our individual journey. Fear of guilt—for trusting ourselves, for following our hearts, for doing our best with what we knew. Guilt that we didn’t live up to another’s expectations or hopes. Guilt that there may have been deceit or lies to others and quite often, even more soul destroying, the shame & guilt to ourselves and the fear we may do this to ourselves again. Fear of failing to accept or process it all. Reaching a new level of low self. and if you don’t? Perhaps questioning, if this is normal? What is this new stage/ level of you, this new perspective or understanding of the world & yourself? If, as the book is titled, we are to ‘Come As You Are’, then perhaps we should … ‘Come As All That We Are’ 🫦